Books by wendy paris
Simon & Schuster/Atria, 2016. Foreign rights: Hungary.
"A wonderful blend of storytelling and social science—a book that amuses and captivates while dispensing shrewd advice based on solid psychological research." — John Tierney, co-author of the New York Times bestseller Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength.“This may be the most comprehensive approach to relationships that I’ve seen.” — Tonio Epstein, WGDR-FM/NPR
Splitopia: Dispatches From Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well (Simon & Schuster/Atria Books, 2016) looks at how changes in laws and customs over the past 40 years have greatly improved divorce for many, as have advances in psychology, positive psychology, technology and child development, and an increased understanding of the importance of the father. Splitopia is the only book on divorce that combines research from family law, psychology and child development with interviews with 200 formerly married people and the author's personal story.
It has been written about in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Globe and Mail, Real Simple, Marie Claire, the Houston Chronicle, The New York Post, Salon.com, Psychology Today and Kveller.com. among other publications and website, and featured on podcasts, television, and radio shows nationwide.
“The essential resource for anyone who wants a “good” divorce. Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Wendy Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a practical and reassuring guide to parting well. Divorce isn’t a happy experience, but for many people, it can lead to a happier life." — Gretchen Rubin, author of the New York Times bestsellers Better Than Before, Happier at Home and The Happiness Project
Book Review: Psych Central, by Bella DePaulo
Watch this video about why I wrote a book on today's good divorce.
Words for the Wedding: Creative Ideas for Personalizing Your Vows, Toasts, Invitations and More
Perigee/Penguin Putnam, 2011. First Edition, 2001
“Ultimately, the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.” — Oscar Wilde
Words for the Wedding, all new and updated in 2011, includes a thousand quotes about love and marriage as voiced by everyone from Buddah to Bono. It also includes chapters about using these words in your wedding and D-I-Y strategies for personalizing your ceremony, reception, pre-wedding parties, wedding website and more, by employing the best words from the world’s most talented wordsmiths. Originally published in 2000, Words for the Wedding has been a perennial wedding-planner top seller.
Happily Ever After: The Fairy Tale Formula for Lasting Love
Harper Collins, 2002. Foreign rights: Italy, China, Taiwan, Spain, Germany, Thailand, Indonesia, Japan,
Cinderella doesn’t hide inside her pumpkin carriage, crying, “No one attends a party alone! Everyone will think I’m a loser!” She throws her shoulders back, lifts her chin and marches in the door.
What can we learn from fairy tales? That even if “cinder maid” is your job title, it doesn’t define your entire existence. Happily Ever After: The Fairy Tale Formula for Lasting Love offers an encouraging look at the noble and brave behavior of the heroines of ten classic fairy tales. Before Disney created the current Pantheon of Princesses, the original ladies in waiting like Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella and Thumbellina relied on their intelligence, patience and self-knowledge to land the man, and the life, of their dreams.
Selected Journalism & essays
ARTICLES ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS, HEALTH, PSYCHOLOGY, ARTS & SOCIAL JUSTICE
- "A Mighty Grant," Inside Philanthropy, March 23, 2018
- "Artist Turns Love of Light into Project for Africans," Jewish Journal, March 21, 2018
- "The Joy of Neon," Jewish Journal, Feb 14, 2018
- "The Laws of Attraction," Psychology Today, July 4, 2017
- "Uber for Divorce? These Startups Are Bringing DIY Divorces to the Masses,” The New York Observer, Feb. 3, 2016
- “The New Cancer Survivors," Psychology Today, March 2015
- “Destination Divorces Are Turning Heartbreaks Into Holidays,” Quartz, April 9, 2015
ESSAYS & OPINION
- "Is 50 the New 40?" Jewish Journal, March 7, 2018
- "Aging and the Meaning of Life," Jewish Journal, Jan. 24, 2018
- "Why I Miss Flirting," Jewish Journal, Nov. 8, 2017
- “My 20 Percent Husband,” Psychology Today, Jan., 2016
- “A Divorcee’s Shabbat," The Forward, March 30, 2016
- “The Divorce Divide: how the U.S. legal system screws poor parents,” Quartz, May 5, 2015
- “The Gwyneth Effect: Why the Snark about the Good Divorce?” Quartz, Sept. 19, 2014
- “Why I Traveled 3000 Miles to Get to Temple," Zocalo, Oct. 18, 2013
- "How to finally get along with your spouse; Get divorced," Quartz, June 3, 2013
- "Happily Ever, After We Split," The New York Times, June 1, 2012
- "Next Time Under the Chuppah," Jewish Week, May 15, 2012
- “In the Grips of Nature’s Own Form of Birth Control," The New York Times, Nov. 26, 2006
- “Bucking Wedding Conventions, Except for One," The New York Times, May 15, 2005