About Wendy


Hello, and welcome to my website.  I am a writer, editor, mother and recreational dancer, yogi and cookie decorator recently relocated from New York City to Santa Monica, CA.  I have worked as a journalist, editor and author for more than two decades, and currently do journalism, write books and help others trying to write books conceptualize the idea, write a proposal, choose an agent and write the book. 

 My articles and essays have appeared in news outlets including The New York Times, Psychology TodayThe New York Observer, Jewish Journal, The GuardianWashington Post, Los Angeles Review of Books, Quartz,  ArtNEWSWine Spectator, Salon.com and Marketplace Radio, as well as women's magazines including Self, Glamour, Family Circle, Fitness, Brides, and theknot.com. I worked as a Senior Editor at Psychology Today magazine, an art columnist for the Houston Press, and a television producer for WNBC-TV in New York City.  


My most recent book is a collaboration with Jane Mosbacher Morris, founder of TO THE MARKET, called  Buy the Change You Want to See: Use Your Purchasing Power to Make the World a Better Place (TarcherPerigee, 2019). 

My last book was Splitopia: Dispatches from Today’s Good Divorce and How to Part Well (Simon & Schuster/Atria Books, 2016).  

Splitopia looks at how changes in laws and customs over the past 40 years have greatly improved divorce for many, as have advances in psychology, technology, positive psychology and child development, and an increased understanding of the importance of the father.  It challenges the assumption that all happy families must look alike.

Splitopia has been written about or excerpted in The New York Times, the Washington PostThe Globe and Mail, Real Simple, Marie Claire, the Houston ChronicleSalon.comKveller.com, PsychCentral.com and Family Law Review, among other publications, and featured on podcasts, television and radio shows nationwide.

I also run the nation's first "divorce wellness" website, Splitopia.com, and blog at Psychologytoday.com, Huffingtonpost.com and Splitopia.com. 



"A compelling case that it’s high time for a new definition of Happily Ever After—for everyone." — Brigid Schulte, author of the New York Times bestseller, "Overwhelmed: Work, Love & Play When No One has the Time," and director of The Good Life Initiative at New America foundation.

"A wonderful blend of storytelling and social science." John Tierney, co-author of "Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength."


“The essential resource for anyone who wants a “good” divorce." Gretchen Rubin, author of the New York Times bestsellers "Better Than Before," "Happier at Home" and "The Happiness Project."


"An important book." — Joan Blades, co-founder of MoveOn.org, Momsrising.org and Livingroomconversations.org.


Read more about Splitopia here.

Before writing about divorce, I spent many years writing about romance and weddings. I am the co-author of Words for the Wedding: 1000 Quotes on Love and Marriage (Perigee/Penguin-Putnam, 2011, 2000), a perennial seller since its publication more than 15 years ago. I am also the author of Happily Ever After: The Fairy Tale Formula for Lasting Love (HarperCollins, 2001), a humorous reinterpretation of ten classic fairy tales, translated into 14 languages, and excerpted in Glamour, Cosmopolitan Italy and Cosmopolitan South Africa. 

I was a 2013 Fellow with the Washington D.C.-based think-tank New America foundation, a 2012 Encore Fellow with Encore.org, and a visiting artist at the MacDowell Colony and the 18th Street Arts Center. I have an MFA in Creative Non-Fiction Writing from Columbia University, and currently volunteer as a mentor-editor with the Op-Ed Project. 

I've also done communications consulting for fair trade groups, family law reform organizations and pro-social businesses.

I did my first story-on-stage this past December. 

After 20 years of living in and around New York City, I moved to Santa Monica, CA, in 2014. I currently live with my son, a few blocks further up from the beach from my ex-husband, with whom I have a warm co-parenting relationship.  

Write to me at wendyeparis@gmail.com.