About Wendy


Hello, and welcome to my website.  I am a writer, editor, mother and recreational crafter recently relocated from New York City to Santa Monica, CA.  I have worked as a journalist, editor and author for more than two decades.  My most recent book is Splitopia: Dispatches from Today’s Good Divorce and How to Part Well (Simon & Schuster/Atria Books, 2016).  

Splitopia looks at how changes in laws and customs over the past 40 years have greatly improved divorce for many, as have advances in psychology, technology, positive psychology and child development, and an increased understanding of the importance of the father.  It challenges the assumption that all happy families must look alike.

Splitopia has been written about or excerpted in The New York Times, the Washington PostThe Globe and Mail, Real Simple, Marie Claire, the Houston ChronicleSalon.comKveller.com, PsychCentral.com and Family Law Review, among other publications, and featured on podcasts, television and radio shows nationwide.

I also run the nation's first "divorce wellness" website, Splitopia.com, and blog at Psychologytoday.com, Huffingtonpost.com and Splitopia.com. 



"A compelling case that it’s high time for a new definition of Happily Ever After—for everyone." — Brigid Schulte, author of the New York Times bestseller, "Overwhelmed: Work, Love & Play When No One has the Time," and director of The Good Life Initiative at New America foundation.
"A wonderful blend of storytelling and social science." John Tierney, co-author of "Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength."
“The essential resource for anyone who wants a “good” divorce."  — Gretchen Rubin, author of the New York Times bestsellers "Better Than Before," "Happier at Home" and "The Happiness Project."
"An important book."  — Joan Blades, co-founder of MoveOn.org, Momsrising.org and Livingroomconversations.org. 

Read more about Splitopia here.

My articles and essays have appeared in news outlets including The New York Times, Psychology TodayThe New York Observer, The GuardianWashington Post, Quartz, Salon.com and Marketplace Radio. I've also written for service magazines such as Self, Glamour, Family Circle, Fitness, Brides and theknot.com, and special interest publications including ArtNEWSWine SpectatorJewish Week and The Forward. I worked as a Senior Editor at Psychology Today magazine, an art columnist for the Houston Press, and a television producer for WNBC-TV in New York City.  

Before writing about divorce, I spent many years writing about romance and weddings. I am the co-author of Words for the Wedding: 1000 Quotes on Love and Marriage (Perigee/Penguin-Putnam, 2011, 2000), a perennial seller since its publication more than 15 years ago. I am also the author of Happily Ever After: The Fairy Tale Formula for Lasting Love (HarperCollins, 2001), a humorous reinterpretation of ten classic fairy tales, translated into 14 languages, and excerpted in Glamour, Cosmopolitan Italy and Cosmopolitan South Africa. 

I was a 2013 Fellow with the Washington D.C.-based think-tank New America foundation, a 2012 Encore Fellow with Encore.org, and a visiting artist at the MacDowell Colony and the 18th Street Arts Center. I have an MFA in Creative Non-Fiction Writing from Columbia University, and currently volunteer as a mentor-editor with the Op-Ed Project. 

I've also done communications consulting for fair trade groups, family law reform organizations and pro-social businesses. I am currently offering book doctoring, ghostwriting and book editing services. 

I did my first story-on-stage this past December. 

After 20 years of living in and around New York City, I moved to Santa Monica, CA, in 2014. I currently live with my son, a few blocks further up from the beach from my ex-husband, with whom I have a warm co-parenting relationship.  

Write to me at wendy@wendyparis.com.