Books by wendy paris

Splitopia: Dispatches From Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well

Simon & Schuster/Atria, 2016. Foreign rights: Hungary.

"A wonderful blend of storytelling and social science—a book that amuses and captivates while dispensing shrewd advice based on solid psychological research."   John Tierney, co-author of the New York Times bestseller Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength.

“This may be the most comprehensive approach to relationships that I’ve seen.” — Tonio Epstein, WGDR-FM/NPR

Splitopia: Dispatches From Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well (Simon & Schuster/Atria Books, 2016) looks at how changes in laws and customs over the past 40 years have greatly improved divorce for many, as have advances in psychology, positive psychology, technology and child development, and an increased understanding of the importance of the father.  Splitopia is the only book on divorce that combines research from family law, psychology and child development with interviews with 200 formerly married people and the author's personal story.  

It has been written about in The New York Times, The Washington PostThe Globe and MailReal SimpleMarie Clairethe Houston Chronicle, The New York Post,, Psychology Today and  among other publications and website, and featured on podcasts, television, and radio shows nationwide. 


“The essential resource for anyone who wants a “good” divorce. Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Wendy Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a practical and reassuring guide to parting well.  Divorce isn’t a happy experience, but for many people, it can lead to a happier life."  — Gretchen Rubin, author of the New York Times bestsellers Better Than Before, Happier at Home and The Happiness Project


Book Review: Family Law Quarterly, Spring 2016, by Naomi Cahn and Jana Singer.

Book Review: Psych Central, by Bella DePaulo

Watch this video about why I wrote a book on today's good divorce. 

Words for the Wedding: Creative Ideas for Personalizing Your Vows, Toasts, Invitations and More

Perigee/Penguin Putnam, 2011. First Edition, 2001


“Ultimately, the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.” — Oscar Wilde

Words for the Wedding, all new and updated in 2011, includes a thousand quotes about love and marriage as voiced by everyone from Buddah to Bono. It also includes chapters about using these words in your wedding and D-I-Y strategies for personalizing your ceremony, reception, pre-wedding parties, wedding website and more, by employing the best words from the world’s most talented wordsmiths.  Originally published in 2000, Words for the Wedding has been a perennial wedding-planner top seller.

Happily Ever After: The Fairy Tale Formula for Lasting Love

Harper Collins, 2002. Foreign rights: Italy, China, Taiwan, Spain, Germany, Thailand, Indonesia, Japan,  

Cinderella doesn’t hide inside her pumpkin carriage, crying, “No one attends a party alone! Everyone will think I’m a loser!” She throws her shoulders back, lifts her chin and marches in the door. 

What can we learn from fairy tales? That even if “cinder maid” is your job title, it doesn’t define your entire existence. Happily Ever After: The Fairy Tale Formula for Lasting Love offers an encouraging look at the noble and brave behavior of the heroines of ten classic fairy tales. Before Disney created the current Pantheon of Princesses, the original ladies in waiting like Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella and Thumbellina relied on their intelligence, patience and self-knowledge to land the man, and the life, of their dreams. 

Selected Journalism & essays