Books by wendy paris

Buy the Change You Want to See: Use Your Purchasing Power to Make the World a Better Place

By Jane Mosbacher Morris with Wendy Paris, Penguin Random House/ TarcherPerigee, January 2019

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"Our purchasing potential is like an uptapped superpower. We might buy a morning bagel at one shop rather than at another because it's on our route to work, or drop thirty dollars on a gift card for a friend's birthday. But we can slow down and reflect on these micro-decisions, and make more thoughtful choices. For mom-and-pop stores around our country and micro-entrepreneurs in the artisan and agriculture sectors about he world, every purchase really matters."

Eager to change the world? You can have a far greater social impact than you may realize through your everyday purchases.  Buy the Change You Want to See shows you how. 

Equal parts travelogue, buying guide and call for more supply chain transparency in fashion and apparel, this inspirational, uplifting book follows Jane Mosbacher Morris's journey from the U.S. Department of State, where she worked on counter-terrorism and anti-human trafficking, to her decision to start a fashion company to connect impoverished artisans with consumers and Fortune 500s here. The book looks at how we can all help harness the power of private enterprise, and work alongside nonprofits and government agencies, to overcome longstanding social injustices. 

The book travels from Washington D.C. to India, from the glittering aisles of Macy's Herald Square to Haiti, and from the Northwest Chocolate Festival in Seattle and a trendy coffee bar in Austin to coffee and cacao farms high in the hills of Guatemala and the Dominican Republic. Covering topics from why not all factories are evil, to how our morning coffee can be the easiest way for us to use our purchasing power for good, Buy the Change You Want to See sheds light on why some aid programs miss the mark, and how being better informed consumers can truly help make change. You can help bring real economic opportunity to victims of human trafficking and natural disasters through your purchases—and bring one-of-a-kind, truly beautiful handmade items into your life. 

Splitopia: Dispatches From Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well

Simon & Schuster/Atria, 2016. Foreign rights: Hungary. 

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"A wonderful blend of storytelling and social science—a book that amuses and captivates while dispensing shrewd advice based on solid psychological research."  — John Tierney, co-author of the New York Times bestseller Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength.

“This may be the most comprehensive approach to relationships that I’ve seen.” — Tonio Epstein, WGDR-FM/NPR


Splitopia looks at how changes in laws and customs over the past 40 years have greatly improved divorce for many, as have advances in psychology, positive psychology, technology and child development, and an increased understanding of the importance of the father.  Splitopia is the only book on divorce that combines research from family law, psychology and child development with interviews with 200 formerly married people and the author's personal story.  

It has been written about in The New York Times, The Washington PostThe Globe and MailReal SimpleMarie Clairethe Houston Chronicle, The New York Post,, Psychology Today and  among other publications and website, and featured on podcasts, television, and radio shows nationwide. 


“The essential resource for anyone who wants a “good” divorce. Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Wendy Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a practical and reassuring guide to parting well.  Divorce isn’t a happy experience, but for many people, it can lead to a happier life."   Gretchen Rubin, author of the New York Times bestsellers Better Than Before, Happier at Home and The Happiness Project


Book Review: Family Law Quarterly, Spring 2016, by Naomi Cahn and Jana Singer.

Book Review: Psych Central, by Bella DePaulo

Watch this video about why I wrote a book on today's good divorce. 


“Ultimately, the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.” — Oscar Wilde

Words for the Wedding, all new and updated in 2011, includes a thousand quotes about love and marriage as voiced by everyone from Buddah to Bono. It also includes chapters about using these words in your wedding and D-I-Y strategies for personalizing your ceremony, reception, pre-wedding parties, wedding website and more, by employing the best words from the world’s most talented wordsmiths.  Originally published in 2000, Words for the Wedding has been a perennial wedding-planner top seller.

Happily Ever After: The Fairy Tale Formula for Lasting Love

Harper Collins, 2002. Foreign rights: Italy, China, Taiwan, Spain, Germany, Thailand, Indonesia, Japan,  

Cinderella doesn’t hide inside her pumpkin carriage, crying, “No one attends a party alone! Everyone will think I’m a loser!” She throws her shoulders back, lifts her chin and marches in the door. 

What can we learn from fairy tales? That even if “cinder maid” is your job title, it doesn’t define your entire existence. Happily Ever After: The Fairy Tale Formula for Lasting Love offers an encouraging look at the noble and brave behavior of the heroines of ten classic fairy tales. Before Disney created the current Pantheon of Princesses, the original ladies in waiting like Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella and Thumbellina relied on their intelligence, patience and self-knowledge to land the man, and the life, of their dreams.